“Sit with me, and I’ll not be alone. Hold my hand, and I’ll not feel alone. Cry with me, and I’ll no longer suffer alone.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Making Wishes: Quotes, Thoughts, & a Little Poetry for Every Day of the Year
It is one of the beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.
A Closer Look at why Bay Area Turning Point’s Mission is Critical to Community Health…
Domestic violence and sexual assault can happen to anyone of any age, race or ethnicity, religion, ability, income level, area of residence, type of career/job, appearance, sexual orientation, or gender identity. However, women have higher rates of assault than men.
It is all around us. It affects our families, our friends, our coworkers and our neighbors. It is an epidemic, clearly seen through nightly news. Domestic violence is the most common cause of injury for women ages 18 to 44. It leads to an increased incidence of chronic disease: abused women are 70 percent more likely to have heart disease, 80 percent more likely to have a stroke and 60 percent are more likely to develop asthma. Not only does this violence and abuse cause personal suffering, it reduces productivity on the job and drives up health costs. Nearly a quarter of employed women report that domestic violence has affected their work performance at some point in their lives. Annually, an estimated eight million days of paid work is lost in the U.S. because of domestic violence.
Children may overhear adults fighting, see bruises after the abuse is over, or witness the abuse. They are likely to think that abuse is a normal part of relationships. They are more likely than other children to abuse someone or be abused when they grow up. Children living in abusive homes often experience serious and long-lasting effects, including:
- Behavior and academic problems
- Feelings of guilt for not being able to stop the abuse
- Depression, anxiety, substance use, eating disorders, cutting, and other mental health problems
- Health problems even many years later
Sometimes, abuse begins when a woman is pregnant, often causing health problems for a baby even before it is born.
Older women who are abused often face the same challenges as younger women, but they face additional ones, too. These may include:
- Having grown up and married during a time when domestic abuse was tolerated or ignored
- Having lived with abuse for many years, which can lead to problems like poor self-esteem
- Feeling a duty to take care of an aging partner
- Feeling afraid to live alone after being with someone for many years
- Having less of a support network, such as when friends retire and move away, or pass
- More than 23 million women in the United States have been raped …one in five African-American and white women and one in eight Hispanic women.
- Most women who have been raped were younger than 25 when the rape happened. Almost half of female rape victims are under 18.
- Almost 2 million men in the United States have been raped. Almost 6% of men have experienced sexual coercion, and almost 11% of men have experienced unwanted sexual contact.
- Sometimes sexual assault is committed by a stranger. Most often, though, it is by a friend, acquaintance, relative, date, or an intimate partner.
- Both women and men commit sexual assault, but nearly 99% of all people who are reported for sexual assault are men.
- Many sexual assault victims have an on-going difficult time with even healthy intimacy.
- Some sexual assault victims’ partners experience times of blaming their partner. Some leave the victim to face the healing process alone, worsening the hurt and fear of the victim.
Domestic and sexual assaults are crimes, yet it is the only time a victim may be treated as if s/he did something wrong. If a person is robbed walking down the street in apparently expensive clothing, is s/he asked why s/he caused the crime by wearing those clothing? Is a victim of a home robbery asked why they caused the crime by living in an area that is targeted by thieves? Is a victim of auto theft asked why s/he doesn’t drive a car that criminals don’t want to steal?
Why Contribute to Charity
From fancy cars and expensive clothes to fine dining and exotic vacations, there are many ways you can spend your hard-earned dollars. And there is nothing wrong with rewarding yourself for a job well done — but what would happen if you rewarded someone else instead? A recent study by Harvard Business School faculty and graduate students titled “Feeling Good about Giving: The Benefits (and Costs) of Self-Interested Charitable Behavior,” explores the ways in which charitable behavior can lead to benefits for the giver. While the concept that giving to others can make you feel good about yourself is not revolutionary, there are several more subtle ways that giving your money or time for a cause can benefit your psychological, spiritual and emotional well-being.
Giving to charity may improve your sense of well-being
The act of helping others can create an improved sense of well-being. Knowing that you sacrificed something such as time, finances or property in order to help others in need can give you a sense of purpose in life or work and inner satisfaction. Donating a little bit of money or time may not seem like much. But if your donation is joined with others, it becomes something much bigger. People who give feel happier, are less anxious and suffer less depression than those who don’t. Better health is enjoyed by those who donate their time, expertise or money to others who are in need. Charitable people tend to be able to cope with their own problems more easily than those who don’t donate. Giving to others improves your self-esteem, self confidence and self worth. This advantage flows into all areas of your life so you will find that you are more confident at work and in social situations.
Supporting a cause can help keep you informed about issues of social injustice
When considering donating to a charity, many people tend to research the issues connected to that organization. As a result, you become more educated about social injustices around the world. You may discover new points of view and opinions on topics about which you were previously uniformed. This knowledge may position you to help increase the awareness of social problems among those in your sphere of influence from a balanced and educated standpoint. Many people want to be a part of something purposeful. Bombarded by the abundance of “bad news” that surrounds us daily, givers decide to do something about it that makes a positive difference in the world.
Giving to charity out of spiritual conviction can strengthen your spiritual life
Selfless giving is a key component to many spiritual and religious belief systems. Recognizing that you have taken action in line with your spiritual beliefs by offering your resources to others in need can bring a sense of inner peace and contentment.
Set an example
If you have children, donating to charity will show them you care about others and want to make the world a better place. If you involve your children in choosing charities, you will instill a desire to share and serve that will last throughout their lives. Grandchildren, nieces and nephews can also be influenced by your generosity towards others.
A Grateful heart
Donating resources and time celebrates that you are blessed to not have, or to have overcome, the human suffering of others. As you give food to a local food bank, or write a check for an organization that helps people in need, you can’t help but feel thankful for the blessings in your own life. Many donors express appreciation for the opportunity to give and say it brings more resources to them.
Volunteering with a charity may result in physical and social benefits
After donating financially to a charity or non-profit organization, you may feel an inner pull to become more involved with the cause by donating your time and skill as well. By volunteering, you have the opportunity to build your social circles while reaping the physical, mental and spiritual benefits from the labor you contribute to your favorite cause.
When you donate to a charitable organization or a non-profit group, the amount you donate without receiving a benefit is tax deductible as permitted by U.S. law. But not only is the money you give tax deductible, so are the amounts you spend on travel, parking costs and even convention and event fees that are related to the non-profit group, as long as you are not being reimbursed by the charity for these expenses.
Ways to Help
Donations made to the agency directly impact the people assisted every day. We rely on these contributions to maintain and grow our programs, which are designed to help survivors get back on their feet and to increase their safety.
Gifts of Stock/IRA/Securities
These types of gifts are welcome and encouraged!
Making Your Donation Grow
Many companies offer matching gift programs. If you choose to make a gift to BATP, your company may match a portion or all of it. This way of giving multiplies your gift, and helps BATP support our clients. Contact your Human Resources department today to find out if your company has a matching gift program.
Gifts of Pre-Paid Cards to Area Stores
We welcome gift cards. They empower our clients to buy for themselves. Gift cards guarantee gifts people will be able to meet a need. We can provide gift cards to clients for their needs that we cannot always supply with our limited funds, such as medication, special job wear, teen shoes, and more. The gifts cards often requested by our families include: Wal-Mart, Target, Kohl’s, CVS, Walgreen’s, large grocery stores that have a pharmacy, etc.
Gifts of Household and Personal Products
Gifts of tangible personal property offer an immediate tax deduction. These gifts include clothing, toiletries, cleaning supplies, paper products laundry detergent, food, office supplies, furniture – basically, anything that a typical home uses.
Another form of support can include gifts-in-kind such as: works of art, trips, professional services, jewelry, and other items that can be used for annual auctions.
Corporate and Small Business Giving
By far the most impactful gift a corporation can provide is a financial donation. Supporting BATP demonstrates to the community that your company believes and invests in building healthier communities. The organization accepts and encourages corporate unrestricted financial support through the grant process, special event sponsorships and underwriting, third-party fundraisers, employee giving campaign participation, or simply an unrestricted annual contribution. All non-benefited financial contributions are tax deductible as permitted by law.
Gifts of Time
Gifts of time involve corporate groups that wish to volunteer of their time and efforts toward a specific area of need. Ideas for participation include: office painting and capital project support, grounds work in shelter or office location, legal support services time, our food drives and special event volunteers.
Some organizations encourage their colleagues to donate a portion of their paycheck to a nonprofit organization. By offering this type of program and making BATP the beneficiary, both you and your company’s employees are giving back to a great agency. BATP will gladly accept donations through your donor-advised fund.
Mail a check to:
Bay Area Turning Point, Inc., PO Box 890929, Houston, TX 77289
Give online at www.bayareaturningpoint.org
A $45 donation to Bay Area Turning Point provides a night of shelter for one adult and two children.
Call to explore ways to give your time and talents. 281.338.7600
“What we spend, we lose. What we keep will be left for others. What we give away will be ours forever.”
― David McGee
4320 ADDENDUM POLICY: Donor Privacy
Bay Area Turning Point honors the privacy of its donors and therefore will not sell its donor lists nor publish donor names and contribution in any means (paper or electronic) without the permission of its donors.